Another J2SE JSR82 implementation 
Since it seems there's no progress with the beautiful bluecove desktop JSR82 implementation I am glad I found a promising other project (Well the last update was in mid 2005 but I hope the work on that will continue):
https://bluesock.dev.java.net/Look really promising. Like bluecove it needs WinXP SP2 with the Microsoft bluetooth stack.
And I just figured out a really annoying thing:
When I want to connect from the mobile to the WinXP box (SPP) I have to set "authenticate=true" on the MIDlet side.
If I don't use that I get an SymbianOS error -34 (Connection failed).